How Do You Write a Love Letter to Your Crush?

If you’re going to spend your valuable time pouring your heart and soul into a love letter (or email), please make sure you’re writing to someone who you know will take the time to read it.

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How Can INFJs Resist the Urge to Change to Attract a Romantic Partner?

It takes significant mental and emotional energy to keep up a mask. As an INFJ, your mental and emotional energy would be much better spent using the gifts you were blessed with to help the world.

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10 Questions Single People Should Ask Themselves to Help Them Find Their Dream Partner

While you can’t actually create or design your dream partner, you can have a clearer picture in your mind of what you would like them to be like.

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Why Confessing Feelings Hypothetically Is One of the Best Ways to Confess

This type of confession is best suited for when you either aren’t sure how strongly you feel for the person you like or you’re very unsure how they feel.

Why Would Someone Fail to Respond to a Texted Love Confession?

Some people are so popular that they’re constantly texting many people at once. It’s possible your confession just got lost in the shuffle.

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What Makes an INFJ Fall in Love?

Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.

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If You’ve Struggled to Find Love, Try One of These Tips

A much better use of your time would be to focus on your own journey and what you can do to change your situation or your perspective on it.

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5 First Date Ideas for INFJs

Essentially, there are two main ingredients for an INFJ’s ideal first date—quiet and deep conversation.

How Long Should You Wait to Confess Your Feelings for Someone?

So, when should you confess versus asking your crush out first? I think it comes down to how well you know them.

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5 Phrases All INFJs Should Adopt to Practice Effective Self-Care

INFJs who want to enhance their self-care routine could benefit from adding the following five phrases to their everyday lives.

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Should You Confess Your Feelings to an Online Crush?

Even if you two have a connection and you have real feelings for them, you won’t know if it’s really them you have feelings for or just the online persona they’ve created until you meet in person.

Why Is It More Painful When Your Crush Leaves Things Open?

If someone doesn’t give you a clear response, you’re in a state of limbo. You may find yourself wondering, “How exactly do they feel about me?”

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Why Do Some INFJs Prefer to Stay Friends Over Starting a Romantic Relationship?

If an INFJ prefers to just chill, relax, or hang out with someone, it’s much easier to do that as friends.

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Why Do INFJs Struggle to Flirt?

Flirting is one of those behaviors that makes us feel inauthentic because it makes it seem like just being ourselves isn’t enough.

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10 INFJ Deal-Breakers in Relationships

If an INFJ senses that you’re not being authentic—that you’re purposefully putting on a mask or acting phony—this will be a cue to us to walk away.

Why Do Other People Know Someone Likes You Before You Do?

This phenomenon is very common for people of the INFJ personality type, though it’s not exclusive to us. But why does it happen at all? After giving it some thought, I’ve come up with four reasons.

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What Do You Do When Your Crush Is Your Best Friend?

You do everything with your best friend. And this is the one person you can talk to about anything. Books. Movies. Stresses. Joys. And…crushes?

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Why Would an INFJ Reject Someone?

An INFJ won’t usually reject someone because they felt like it one day or because they just changed their mind about them. They’ll usually have a reason for doing this.