How to Stop a Crush from Being Your Only Source of Happiness

You probably don’t need to remind yourself of what you love about your crush. But you might find it helpful to remind yourself what you love about you.

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How Can INFJs Resist the Urge to Change to Attract a Romantic Partner?

It takes significant mental and emotional energy to keep up a mask. As an INFJ, your mental and emotional energy would be much better spent using the gifts you were blessed with to help the world.

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10 Questions Single People Should Ask Themselves to Help Them Find Their Dream Partner

While you can’t actually create or design your dream partner, you can have a clearer picture in your mind of what you would like them to be like.

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making a Love Confession

Do you like this person as more than a friend, are you in love with them, or do you just enjoy their company and wonder if you could become more than friends?

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Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.

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Why Is Letting Go So Hard for INFJs?

Everyone has things it’s hard for them to let go of. For INFJs in particular, though, letting go can be even more difficult. But why? Why is it so hard?

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Why Can't Real Life Be More Like the Movies?

If we collectively decide and agree that we like to see certain things in movies—like happy endings—why can’t we collectively decide and agree to work toward those things in life?

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Why Do INFJs Love So Hard?

My personality type is INFJ. That means—among other things—that when I love, I love hard. Here’s an example.

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Why Does "Happily Ever After" Usually Start With Marriage?

Is it not possible for a single person to live happily ever after?

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Why Do We Forget Loved Ones Who Aren't on Social Media?

In 2013, I did an experiment. Tired of receiving stale, Facebook-prompted birthday wishes, I took my birthday off Facebook to see what would happen. And here’s what happened.