How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

How Do You Know When You're in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

17 Journal Prompts for INFJ Unrequited Love

If you’re an INFJ or someone who loves deeply, these prompts will encourage you to ask yourself what this crush means to you and what your feelings for them say about how you feel about yourself.

The 7 Stages of an INFJ Crush

An INFJ encounters a person and feels a deep connection to them. Logic isn’t usually consulted at this stage. Everything is feelings and emotions.

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7 Phrases You Might Want to Include in a Confession Letter to Your Crush

This one might seem obvious, but in your haste to write and give your letter, it could slip your mind to actually tell your crush how you feel.

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5 Tips for Communicating Better With INFJs

It might seem counterintuitive, but much of communication comes down to how well you listen.

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When Should You Give an INFJ Space?

It can be hard for INFJs to make their needs known, so it’s a big deal if they’re asking you for space.

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What Should You Say to a Crush Who Moved—And Took Your Heart With Them?

If you never confessed your feelings to this person, make sure you do that now.

5 Tips for Getting Over Unrequited Love at Work

If you find yourself having to get over a crush at work, I hope these five tips help.

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How Can You Encourage an INFJ to Speak Up When Something Is Bothering Them?

Simply telling your INFJ from time to time that it’s ok if they share their feelings with you will do wonders for your relationship.

How Should an INFP Respond to a Love Confession?

When someone tells an INFP that they like them, the INFP may have trouble responding honestly because they’re so excited at the prospect of experiencing a real relationship.

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Why Would Someone Seem to Like You But Reject Your Offer for Romance?

If you like someone who seems to like you but turns down your offer to become more than friends, it’s possible that they do want to become more, but their head is convincing them it’s not a good idea.

How Do You Get Over the Fear of Confessing Your Love to Someone?

Sometimes, when you’re afraid of something, it helps to identify exactly what it is you’re afraid of, rather than having this vague sense of “fear.”

6 Things You Can Do After You Both Confess Your Feelings

When I talk about a happy dance, you don’t have to actually celebrate with a dance if you don’t want to. Just find some way to cherish this momentous occasion.

What Can You Say Instead of Ghosting a Friend?

If the reason you feel like disappearing is because you’re overwhelmed with a situation you’re dealing with, you will definitely want to tell your friend that instead of just stopping all communication.

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What Should You Do When You Miss the Person Who Ghosted You?

This may be considered “ghosting” by some definitions, but it could just be that they’re dealing with something and aren’t in a position to respond.

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5 Keys to Writing a Memorable Confession Letter to Your Crush

Try to include details like these so your crush will know this letter was written just for them.

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The Power of Writing a Letter to an INFJ

There are times when you might actually want to reach out to an INFJ in writing over other forms of communication, like in-person talks, phone calls, or social media.

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If You're an ENTJ With a Crush on an INFJ or INFP, Keep These 5 Things in Mind

Constructive criticism can help all of us grow. But for ENTJs who can often give blunt criticism, it’s not likely to be well-received by an INFJ or INFP even if it is honest or constructive.