But in all this admiration you’re giving to your crush, you’re forgetting just how wonderful you are.

In your reveries, you’re likely idealizing your crush and what it means to be in a relationship with them.

You don’t have to make your entire life about your crush.

Most people won’t understand why you do what you do, and it’s very likely that your behavior will confuse you at times, too.

Because of your outward focus, when you have an intense crush, it’s very easy for you to lose yourself in your crush.

If you’re living a truly happy and fulfilling life, you’ll probably find it hard to waste precious time and energy loving someone who doesn’t return your affection.

I don’t mean you should just be doing idle things to pass the time. You should be doing things that are meaningful to you.

Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to have a crush and then move on as if I never had any feelings for that person.

Sometimes we INFJs can be so lost in our own fantasy world that we forget reality doesn’t match the beautiful picture in our mind.

While being this way might seem to make it easier to find love because you’re always looking for it, there are some problems that can come with this approach.

Sometimes you have to move on or at least begin the healing process because you realize that you want more from your crush than they’re willing or able to give.

Until an INFJ applies logic to the situation, they still won’t see these things as enough reason to move on.

How is it that a child can feel so big, but when you are big you feel small as a twig?

Self-love is selfish, that’s the way I saw it in my mind. But after all these years I’ve learned self-love is something kind.

Appearance isn’t something I value as much as other things—like the ability to go out in the rain without worrying about getting my hair wet.

You’re trying to uncover who you are, which means you’re looking for answers to questions you’re asking about yourself.

Being connected to your sensual side is a central part of enjoying your human experience.

You may start to wonder, “Which way should I go?” There’s no one to lead you. So, how will you know?

For INFJs who would like to show themselves how much they value themselves, they should try to make sure their needs are taken care of.

We don’t have to sit and wait passively for an outside force to come save us or reveal the plan to us.

When leaving Christianity and going through the deconstruction process, you may find it challenging to figure out right and wrong on your own.

The first time I notice that religious trauma was beginning to affect me was with religious scrupulosity or religious OCD.

I feel that this is based on too simplistic a view of that which is greater than us.

If this is or could be a struggle for you, please know that there are ways to find some clarity about how to move forward without religion.