What I Thought Was Part of My Identity Turned Out to Be Nothing More Than a Love Addiction

Realizing this has left me with a bit of an identity crisis as I try to figure out, who am I without that aspect of myself?

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 7 and 8

In your reveries, you’re likely idealizing your crush and what it means to be in a relationship with them.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 5 and 6

You don’t have to make your entire life about your crush.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 3 and 4

Most people won’t understand why you do what you do, and it’s very likely that your behavior will confuse you at times, too.

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How Can Being a Hopeless Romantic Make It Harder to Find Love?

While being this way might seem to make it easier to find love because you’re always looking for it, there are some problems that can come with this approach.

How to Get Over an Unrequited Crush That Has Lasted for Years

If this person has had any sort of presence in your life, even if only in your mind, they’ve been serving you in some way.

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Are You an INFJ Who’s Still Single? Try Asking Yourself These 5 Questions

Sometimes you may want a partner for reasons that are real to you, but it’s just not the best time for you to enter a relationship.

What Can You Say Instead of Ghosting a Friend?

If the reason you feel like disappearing is because you’re overwhelmed with a situation you’re dealing with, you will definitely want to tell your friend that instead of just stopping all communication.

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What Should You Do When You Miss the Person Who Ghosted You?

This may be considered “ghosting” by some definitions, but it could just be that they’re dealing with something and aren’t in a position to respond.

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The Power of Writing a Letter to an INFJ

There are times when you might actually want to reach out to an INFJ in writing over other forms of communication, like in-person talks, phone calls, or social media.

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How Can an INTP Confess Their Love to Someone?

The thing about love is, even though it’s best expressed in actions, words are helpful to avoid vagueness.

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6 INFJ First Date Tips

To encourage the likelihood of future dates, make sure your first date allows your INFJ the opportunity to get to know you on a deep level.

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How Should an INFJ Respond If Someone Asks Them Out?

If this is someone you like and that you feel is worthy of your time and affection, don’t be afraid to give them a chance.

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What Do You Do When Things Are Awkward After Confessing Your Feelings?

You two may be able to get to a good place again, but right now distance is what you really need.

Does Confessing Help You Move On from a Crush?

Though it may seem terrifying to put your heart out there and tell your crush you like them, that’s one of the best ways to encourage them to share their own feelings.

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Why Would Someone Fail to Respond to a Love Confession?

It’s impossible for someone to truthfully respond to a love confession if they don’t know how they feel.

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Are INFJs Hard to Love?

In this post, we’re going to look at four behaviors INFJs should be mindful of if they want to have healthy romantic relationships.

How Can Unrequited Love Help People Find Their Dream Partner?

In this post, we’re going to go deeper into how all your unrequited crushes can help lead you to the one meant for you.

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Why Would an INFJ Become Scared of Love?

If an INFJ has experienced a lot of unrequited love or heartbreak after relationships ended, they may have become hardened to the idea of love or cynical about it.

How Do You Write a Love Letter to Your Crush?

If you’re going to spend your valuable time pouring your heart and soul into a love letter (or email), please make sure you’re writing to someone who you know will take the time to read it.

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