How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

How Do You Know When You're in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

The 7 Stages of an INFJ Crush

An INFJ encounters a person and feels a deep connection to them. Logic isn’t usually consulted at this stage. Everything is feelings and emotions.

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Does Confessing Help You Move On from a Crush?

Though it may seem terrifying to put your heart out there and tell your crush you like them, that’s one of the best ways to encourage them to share their own feelings.

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Are INFJs Hard to Love?

In this post, we’re going to look at four behaviors INFJs should be mindful of if they want to have healthy romantic relationships.

How Can Unrequited Love Help People Find Their Dream Partner?

In this post, we’re going to go deeper into how all your unrequited crushes can help lead you to the one meant for you.

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Why Would an INFJ Become Scared of Love?

If an INFJ has experienced a lot of unrequited love or heartbreak after relationships ended, they may have become hardened to the idea of love or cynical about it.

10 Questions Single People Should Ask Themselves to Help Them Find Their Dream Partner

While you can’t actually create or design your dream partner, you can have a clearer picture in your mind of what you would like them to be like.

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What Do You Do When You Regret Confessing Your Love for Someone?

One thing you can ask yourself at a time like this is, what would have happened if you hadn’t confessed?

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Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.

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How Can an INFJ Avoid Falling Too Deeply in Love with Someone They've Never Met?

If you’re an INFJ who tends to fall in love with people you’ve never met, the following tips may help keep you from losing your mind over them.

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What Are the 3 Types of Unrequited Love?

Despite disagreement on the exact number of types of unrequited love, I find that there are only three.

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Is It Worth Holding Onto an Unrequited Crush?

There are cases where it might be worthwhile to hold onto this type of love.

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How Can an INFJ Move On from Unrequited Love?

Because INFJs aren’t known for letting go of things easily, letting something like this go can be especially hard for them.

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Tales of Unrequited INFJ Love: Guitar Class Part 2

A high school student finds a way to help her crush’s band with their sound.

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Tales of Unrequited INFJ Love: Guitar Class Part 1

A high school student finds a way to help her crush’s band with their sound.

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Why Can't Real Life Be More Like the Movies?

If we collectively decide and agree that we like to see certain things in movies—like happy endings—why can’t we collectively decide and agree to work toward those things in life?

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Why Do INFJs Love So Hard?

My personality type is INFJ. That means—among other things—that when I love, I love hard. Here’s an example.

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