7 Things My Past Crushes Taught Me About Myself

One thing I’ve been doing recently is looking back and trying to better understand what the point of all these crushes was if it wasn’t to enter a relationship with someone.

It’s Taken Years, But I’ve Finally Learned to Be Content Being Single. Here’s How.

I’ve finally left the fantasy land where relationships are the highest priority and where having a romantic partner was my main goal.

What I Thought Was Part of My Identity Turned Out to Be Nothing More Than a Love Addiction

Realizing this has left me with a bit of an identity crisis as I try to figure out, who am I without that aspect of myself?

This Is What I Discovered When I Started Analyzing My Unrequited Crushes

I’ve recently been analyzing my crushes over the years, and I finally started to notice what’s really been going on.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 9 and 10

But in all this admiration you’re giving to your crush, you’re forgetting just how wonderful you are.

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The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 3 and 4

Most people won’t understand why you do what you do, and it’s very likely that your behavior will confuse you at times, too.

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Dealing With Unrequited Love for a Coworker? What This Might Be Telling You

If you’re living a truly happy and fulfilling life, you’ll probably find it hard to waste precious time and energy loving someone who doesn’t return your affection.

Why Is Distraction So Important for INFJs Moving On from a Crush?

Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to have a crush and then move on as if I never had any feelings for that person.

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Are You an INFJ Who’s Tired of One-Sided Love? These 4 Tips Might Help You Avoid It

Sometimes we INFJs can be so lost in our own fantasy world that we forget reality doesn’t match the beautiful picture in our mind.

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How Can Being a Hopeless Romantic Make It Harder to Find Love?

While being this way might seem to make it easier to find love because you’re always looking for it, there are some problems that can come with this approach.

Why Should INFJs Use Logic When Trying to Move On from Unrequited Love?

Until an INFJ applies logic to the situation, they still won’t see these things as enough reason to move on.

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How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

How Do You Know When You’re in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

17 Journal Prompts for INFJ Unrequited Love

If you’re an INFJ or someone who loves deeply, these prompts will encourage you to ask yourself what this crush means to you and what your feelings for them say about how you feel about yourself.

6 Things an INFJ in Love Might Want You to Know

If an INFJ does happen to be in love with you and you’re someone who’s looking for something more casual, you might want to think very carefully before entering a relationship with them.

How to Get Over an Unrequited Crush That Has Lasted for Years

If this person has had any sort of presence in your life, even if only in your mind, they’ve been serving you in some way.

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Are You an INFJ Who’s Still Single? Try Asking Yourself These 5 Questions

Sometimes you may want a partner for reasons that are real to you, but it’s just not the best time for you to enter a relationship.

7 Phrases You Might Want to Include in a Confession Letter to Your Crush

This one might seem obvious, but in your haste to write and give your letter, it could slip your mind to actually tell your crush how you feel.

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5 Things INFJs Might Want You to Know (But Might Not Tell You)

This is why you might want to get in the habit of watching their body language when they’re around you. Their actions will often say far more than their words do.