How Can Being a Hopeless Romantic Make It Harder to Find Love?

While being this way might seem to make it easier to find love because you’re always looking for it, there are some problems that can come with this approach.

Should You Hold Onto Your Crush or Try Moving On?

Sometimes you have to move on or at least begin the healing process because you realize that you want more from your crush than they’re willing or able to give.

Why Should INFJs Use Logic When Trying to Move On from Unrequited Love?

Until an INFJ applies logic to the situation, they still won’t see these things as enough reason to move on.

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How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

17 Journal Prompts for INFJ Unrequited Love

If you’re an INFJ or someone who loves deeply, these prompts will encourage you to ask yourself what this crush means to you and what your feelings for them say about how you feel about yourself.

5 Tips for Getting Over Unrequited Love at Work

If you find yourself having to get over a crush at work, I hope these five tips help.

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How to Stop a Crush from Being Your Only Source of Happiness

You probably don’t need to remind yourself of what you love about your crush. But you might find it helpful to remind yourself what you love about you.

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How Can Unrequited Love Help People Find Their Dream Partner?

In this post, we’re going to go deeper into how all your unrequited crushes can help lead you to the one meant for you.

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Why Would an INFJ Become Scared of Love?

If an INFJ has experienced a lot of unrequited love or heartbreak after relationships ended, they may have become hardened to the idea of love or cynical about it.

What Makes an INFJ Fall in Love?

Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.

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Why Is It More Painful When Your Crush Leaves Things Open?

If someone doesn’t give you a clear response, you’re in a state of limbo. You may find yourself wondering, “How exactly do they feel about me?”

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Should You Stay Friends With Someone You Have Unrequited Love For?

In my experience, the answer to this question depends on three factors. Let’s take a closer look at these factors, shall we?

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How Can INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Deal With Unrequited Love at Christmas?

I have some advice on how to stay hopeful and get through the holidays when what you really want can’t be put under the tree.

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Why Do INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Hold Onto Love for So Long?

When you love so deeply, things like facts, reality, and logic tend to take a backseat.

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You loved someone when they were in a bad place, and they left once they got out of it. This might be why.

As you spend time with this person, you can’t help but imagine what your life together will look like once they recover.

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7 Reasons Your Love May Often Be Unrequited

The people you’re most compatible with may not be who you expect.

A Lesson in INFJ Rumination

Looking back, I realize that I might have been able to avoid all this if I had been able to think about something else all day.

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Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.