How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

How Do You Know When You're in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

What Should You Say to a Crush Who Moved—And Took Your Heart With Them?

If you never confessed your feelings to this person, make sure you do that now.

4 Well-Meaning Tips That Haven’t Helped Me Make Friends as an Introvert—And What Has Worked

Many people are fine keeping relationships and conversations on a superficial level. But that’s not something that works for me.

Why Would Someone Seem to Like You But Reject Your Offer for Romance?

If you like someone who seems to like you but turns down your offer to become more than friends, it’s possible that they do want to become more, but their head is convincing them it’s not a good idea.

6 Things You Can Do After You Both Confess Your Feelings

When I talk about a happy dance, you don’t have to actually celebrate with a dance if you don’t want to. Just find some way to cherish this momentous occasion.

What Should You Do When You Miss the Person Who Ghosted You?

This may be considered “ghosting” by some definitions, but it could just be that they’re dealing with something and aren’t in a position to respond.

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Confessions of an INFJ in Love

I know enough of INFJ love to make the following five confessions.

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How to Stop a Crush from Being Your Only Source of Happiness

You probably don’t need to remind yourself of what you love about your crush. But you might find it helpful to remind yourself what you love about you.

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Why INTJs Might Want to Consider Taking a Chance on Love

While it might not be possible for INTJs to become well-versed in the language of feelings overnight, having a long-term partner could help them become more comfortable with their feelings over time.

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How Can Unrequited Love Help People Find Their Dream Partner?

In this post, we’re going to go deeper into how all your unrequited crushes can help lead you to the one meant for you.

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What Makes an INFJ Fall in Love?

Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.