How Do You Stop Being in Love With the Idea of Someone?

When you find yourself dwelling on certain things and ignoring everything else, give yourself a reality check and remind yourself to take in the whole person.

How Do You Know When You're in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

The 7 Stages of an INFJ Crush

An INFJ encounters a person and feels a deep connection to them. Logic isn’t usually consulted at this stage. Everything is feelings and emotions.

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How to Get Over an Unrequited Crush That Has Lasted for Years

If this person has had any sort of presence in your life, even if only in your mind, they’ve been serving you in some way.

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Will an INFJ Come Back After Leaving a Relationship?

An INFJ may have left a relationship for reasons that had little or nothing to do with the other person. Sometimes they were just dealing with their own issues.

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The Beauty of an INFJ-INFP Friendship

These commonalities may already lead INFJs and INFPs to have something to bond over when they meet, but their understanding goes even deeper than that.

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5 Tips for Getting Over Unrequited Love at Work

If you find yourself having to get over a crush at work, I hope these five tips help.

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How Can You Encourage an INFJ to Speak Up When Something Is Bothering Them?

Simply telling your INFJ from time to time that it’s ok if they share their feelings with you will do wonders for your relationship.

Why Would Someone Seem to Like You But Reject Your Offer for Romance?

If you like someone who seems to like you but turns down your offer to become more than friends, it’s possible that they do want to become more, but their head is convincing them it’s not a good idea.

What Causes INFJ Relationship Anxiety?

INFJs are known to be perfectionists. And this desire to have everything be perfect extends to their relationships as well.

What Should You Do When You Miss the Person Who Ghosted You?

This may be considered “ghosting” by some definitions, but it could just be that they’re dealing with something and aren’t in a position to respond.

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5 Things INFJs and INFPs Should Keep in Mind Before Making a Love Confession

If you pay too much attention to these racing thoughts, they might convince you not to confess to someone who is actually worthy of your love and affection.

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How to Stop a Crush from Being Your Only Source of Happiness

You probably don’t need to remind yourself of what you love about your crush. But you might find it helpful to remind yourself what you love about you.

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Why INTJs Might Want to Consider Taking a Chance on Love

While it might not be possible for INTJs to become well-versed in the language of feelings overnight, having a long-term partner could help them become more comfortable with their feelings over time.

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5 Common INFJ Misunderstandings

INFJs long to share their thoughts with others. They just tend to find that many people aren’t willing to go deep, or else they don’t really care what the INFJ has to say.

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How Should an INFJ Respond If Someone Asks Them Out?

If this is someone you like and that you feel is worthy of your time and affection, don’t be afraid to give them a chance.

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Should You Text an INFJ First?

Sending a first text will convey the message that you like this INFJ and are interested in keeping in touch with them.

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10 Questions Single People Should Ask Themselves to Help Them Find Their Dream Partner

While you can’t actually create or design your dream partner, you can have a clearer picture in your mind of what you would like them to be like.

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What Makes an INFJ Fall in Love?

Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.