What I Thought Was Part of My Identity Turned Out to Be Nothing More Than a Love Addiction

Realizing this has left me with a bit of an identity crisis as I try to figure out, who am I without that aspect of myself?

This Is What I Discovered When I Started Analyzing My Unrequited Crushes

I’ve recently been analyzing my crushes over the years, and I finally started to notice what’s really been going on.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 9 and 10

But in all this admiration you’re giving to your crush, you’re forgetting just how wonderful you are.

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The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 7 and 8

In your reveries, you’re likely idealizing your crush and what it means to be in a relationship with them.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 5 and 6

You don’t have to make your entire life about your crush.

The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 3 and 4

Most people won’t understand why you do what you do, and it’s very likely that your behavior will confuse you at times, too.

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The Ultimate Guide to INFJ Crushes: Lessons 1 and 2

Because of your outward focus, when you have an intense crush, it’s very easy for you to lose yourself in your crush.

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How Can INFJs Stop Overthinking Their Crushes?

I don’t mean you should just be doing idle things to pass the time. You should be doing things that are meaningful to you.

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How Can Being a Hopeless Romantic Make It Harder to Find Love?

While being this way might seem to make it easier to find love because you’re always looking for it, there are some problems that can come with this approach.

How Do You Know When You’re in Love With the Idea of Someone?

If you don’t really know them, all your fantasies will be based on what you imagine would be wonderful to experience.

The 7 Stages of an INFJ Crush

An INFJ encounters a person and feels a deep connection to them. Logic isn’t usually consulted at this stage. Everything is feelings and emotions.

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How to Get Over an Unrequited Crush That Has Lasted for Years

If this person has had any sort of presence in your life, even if only in your mind, they’ve been serving you in some way.

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How Can Unrequited Love Help People Find Their Dream Partner?

In this post, we’re going to go deeper into how all your unrequited crushes can help lead you to the one meant for you.

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What Do You Do When Your Crush Is Your Best Friend?

You do everything with your best friend. And this is the one person you can talk to about anything. Books. Movies. Stresses. Joys. And…crushes?

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What Do You Do When You Regret Confessing Your Love for Someone?

One thing you can ask yourself at a time like this is, what would have happened if you hadn’t confessed?

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Are You Seeking Love or Deep Human Connection?

Sometimes you don’t want all the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. Sometimes you just want a friend to talk to.

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