About “The Essential
INFJ Crush Guide”

This guide is the result of years of experience with painful, one-sided crushes. If I had access to a guide like this when I first started having crushes, it would have saved me from years of pain and heartache. I’m now offering you this advice to help you avoid some of my mistakes and put you on the path to finding true love sooner.

These are the 10 lessons you can look forward to learning about:

Lesson 1: Learn who you are.

Lesson 2: Your reality is not your crush’s reality.

Lesson 3: Understand what it means to love deeper than most.

Lesson 4: Don’t be afraid of logic.

Lesson 5: Have other interests.

Lesson 6: Be cautious with your confession.

Lesson 7: Limit the fantasizing and ruminating.

Lesson 8: Find an outlet.

Lesson 9: Don’t undervalue yourself.

Lesson 10: Don’t be afraid to walk away.

About “A Deep Dive into the
7 Stages of an INFJ Crush”

“The 7 Stages of an INFJ Crush” is a framework I created based on my own intense crushes, combined with my knowledge of INFJs and INFJ love. Now INFJs can use this framework to understand their own crushes. And dividing them into stages allows me to give advice specific for each one, which in turn can make it easier for you to deal with your crushes.

These are the 7 stages you’ll be learning about:

Stage 1: The Crush Begins

Stage 2: The Crush Intensifies

Stage 3: Attachment Forms

Stage 4: To Confess or Not to Confess?

Stage 5: Attachment Continues

Stage 6: Healing Begins

Stage 7: Moving On

You can also read about the 7 stages briefly in this post, but here you’ll get a much closer look at them.

About the Story

In the INFJ unrequited love story, a studious high school sophomore named Chloe is deeply in love with a junior named Mordecai. Although Mordecai is almost always dating someone, he and Chloe have a special connection. And Chloe’s friend Simon finds it tough to break the bond they share.

Will Simon find a way to earn Chloe’s affection? Or will Mordecai ask her out when she’s finally allowed to date in senior year? Find out when you read “What Happens After You Confess Your Feelings to Someone?”

To give you a taste of the story, here’s a sample from Chapter 4.

That Friday, Mordecai calls me soon after I get home from school. “Hey,” I answer.

“That’s all you have to say to me? ‘Hey’?” he wonders.

“Excuse me? Should I have said something more?”

“Yeah, you should have. What’s the deal with you and this new guy?”

“What new guy?”

“The guy you’re always hanging around with now.”

“You mean Simon?”

“Yeah, Simon, I guess. What’s the deal with you two?”

“What do you mean?” I wonder.

“I mean, I’ve been seeing you guys together a lot lately.”

“So…”

“So…what’s the deal?”

“No deal. We’re just friends.”

“Just friends, huh?”

“Yeah.”

“You mean like you and I are just friends?”

“No,” I say. “Simon and I are the type of friends who might actually date someday.” I say that mostly to tease him, not because I truly believe it.

“You’re saying we’re not friends that way?”

“Not from where I’m standing.”

“Well, I don’t like it.”

“Don’t like what?”

“You two together. I don’t like it. It doesn’t feel right.”

I chuckle. “What don’t you like?”

“He’s not your type.”

“Oh? And what exactly is my type?”

“Well…me,” he says.

I chuckle again. “If that were true, we’d be dating already.”

“You’re not allowed to date yet.”

“I don’t believe you’d date me even if I were allowed.”

“What makes you say that?”

“How about the fact that you haven’t even considered asking my parents’ permission to date me? If you really cared about me that way, you would at least try that.”

“Don’t I get any credit for not trying to force you to sneak around behind your parents’ back so I can date you?”

I sigh. “Fine. I’ll give you credit for that. But still—”

“But nothing. The day you become a senior, see if I don’t ask you out.”

“You’ll forget about me by then,” I say.

“Not possible.”

“Sure it is. You’ll be in college surrounded by college girls. You won’t have time for a lowly high school kid like me.”

“I could never forget you, Chloe.”

Every inch of me warms at the sound of those words. It takes a while before I recover enough to say, “Anyway, while I wait for you to make up your mind, I’ll be hanging out with Simon.”

“He’s not your type.”

“Stop saying that.”

“All right, but it’s true.”

“We’ll see.”

About “Letters to
My Married Crush”

Catina is a young woman in love with a married man. She confessed her feelings to him in a letter—technically an email—and he gave her a vague response. To cope with the emotions she felt after reading his letter, she wrote him seven letters that she never sent him. These are the letters she wrote, along with the one very short eighth letter she did send.

Although these letters are fictional, they speak of real emotions. If you’re an INFJ who knows what it’s like to love someone you can’t have or someone you can’t be with, you’ll be able to relate to the sentiments in these letters.

To give you a taste of the letters, here’s a sample from the second one.

“I hope you know that you’re the first man I’ve ever really loved. I’ve had many crushes before you, but I didn’t know what love felt like until I met you. I didn’t know what it felt like to meet someone who understood me on such a deep level—someone who earnestly looked forward to every letter I sent him—someone who longed to hear from me. And I longed to hear from you, too.

I tried not to make it obvious. If you went a long time without sending a letter, I wouldn’t let you know how secretly impatient I was for your next. I would just respond as if there had been no long pause. But the truth is that I felt a deep ache inside whenever there was a long pause before you sent your next letter. And it would only be relieved when I saw an email from you waiting in my inbox.”

Why You Should Join
INFJ Crush Corner

I designed INFJ Crush Corner to be a haven for INFJs dealing with intense crushes and all the complicated and confusing emotions that can come with them. Once you pay the one-time membership fee, you’ll have access to all the content that’s currently there and all the content I add in the future, including any updates. That’s quite a bargain.

As an INFJ, I know what it feels like when the world doesn’t understand you. I know what it’s like to feel that there’s nowhere you belong.

My aim is for INFJ Crush Corner to give you that sense of belonging by granting you exclusive access to a place where the content is tailored to your personality type, at least when it comes to crushes. And I hope this, in turn, helps you feel a little less alone.

I know I would have loved to have a place like this when I was in the midst of some of my most intense crushes. And now I’ve created that place for all INFJs.

I hope to see you there. And if you join, I hope you enjoy your stay.

~ Ashley C.

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