Why Is It More Painful When Your Crush Leaves Things Open?

If someone doesn’t give you a clear response, you’re in a state of limbo. You may find yourself wondering, “How exactly do they feel about me?”

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Why Do Some INFJs Prefer to Stay Friends Over Starting a Romantic Relationship?

If an INFJ prefers to just chill, relax, or hang out with someone, it’s much easier to do that as friends.

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Why Do INFJs Struggle to Flirt?

Flirting is one of those behaviors that makes us feel inauthentic because it makes it seem like just being ourselves isn’t enough.

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10 INFJ Deal-Breakers in Relationships

If an INFJ senses that you’re not being authentic—that you’re purposefully putting on a mask or acting phony—this will be a cue to us to walk away.

Why Do Other People Know Someone Likes You Before You Do?

This phenomenon is very common for people of the INFJ personality type, though it’s not exclusive to us. But why does it happen at all? After giving it some thought, I’ve come up with four reasons.

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What Do You Do When Your Crush Is Your Best Friend?

You do everything with your best friend. And this is the one person you can talk to about anything. Books. Movies. Stresses. Joys. And…crushes?

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Why Would an INFJ Reject Someone?

An INFJ won’t usually reject someone because they felt like it one day or because they just changed their mind about them. They’ll usually have a reason for doing this.

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What Do You Do When You Regret Confessing Your Love for Someone?

One thing you can ask yourself at a time like this is, what would have happened if you hadn’t confessed?

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This Is One of the Best Ways to Make an INFJ Feel Better

We need to be able to talk to someone without the fear of judgment. And we need this person to be willing to listen to every word we say.

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8 Possible Reasons the INFJ in Your Life Stopped Texting You

Even with a busy schedule, we INFJs will take the time to respond to texts from those we care about. But we also have a tendency to get caught up in things, like causes we deeply support.

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10 Texts the INFJ in Your Life Would Love to Get

When you send this text, it’s a nice reminder to your INFJ that you actually care about how they’re doing.

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Should You Confess Your Love for Someone Over Text?

Don’t tell someone you love them just because you feel like it one day, or to end an argument, or to tell them what you think they want to hear. Do it because you really mean it.

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Are You Seeking Love or Deep Human Connection?

Sometimes you don’t want all the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. Sometimes you just want a friend to talk to.

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Should You Stay Friends With Someone You Have Unrequited Love For?

In my experience, the answer to this question depends on three factors. Let’s take a closer look at these factors, shall we?

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making a Love Confession

Do you like this person as more than a friend, are you in love with them, or do you just enjoy their company and wonder if you could become more than friends?