Based on my experiences as an INFJ and those of other INFJs, I’ve noticed that the deepest connection happens when it happens in the mind, heart, and soul.

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5 First Date Ideas for INFJs

Essentially, there are two main ingredients for an INFJ’s ideal first date—quiet and deep conversation.

5 Phrases All INFJs Should Adopt to Practice Effective Self-Care

INFJs who want to enhance their self-care routine could benefit from adding the following five phrases to their everyday lives.

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Why Do Some INFJs Prefer to Stay Friends Over Starting a Romantic Relationship?

If an INFJ prefers to just chill, relax, or hang out with someone, it’s much easier to do that as friends.

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Why Do INFJs Struggle to Flirt?

Flirting is one of those behaviors that makes us feel inauthentic because it makes it seem like just being ourselves isn’t enough.

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10 INFJ Deal-Breakers in Relationships

If an INFJ senses that you’re not being authentic—that you’re purposefully putting on a mask or acting phony—this will be a cue to us to walk away.

Why Would an INFJ Reject Someone?

An INFJ won’t usually reject someone because they felt like it one day or because they just changed their mind about them. They’ll usually have a reason for doing this.

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This Is One of the Best Ways to Make an INFJ Feel Better

We need to be able to talk to someone without the fear of judgment. And we need this person to be willing to listen to every word we say.

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8 Possible Reasons the INFJ in Your Life Stopped Texting You

Even with a busy schedule, we INFJs will take the time to respond to texts from those we care about. But we also have a tendency to get caught up in things, like causes we deeply support.

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10 Texts the INFJ in Your Life Would Love to Get

When you send this text, it’s a nice reminder to your INFJ that you actually care about how they’re doing.

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What Should INFJs Do When Their Crushes Find Them Threatening?

I would advise you to keep the following five things in mind when you notice that your crushes feel intimidated by you.

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What Are Some Not-So-Obvious Signs an INFJ Likes You?

While I wasn’t ready to tell my crush that I liked him, I did want him to know I was thinking of him romantically.

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How Can INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Deal With Unrequited Love at Christmas?

I have some advice on how to stay hopeful and get through the holidays when what you really want can’t be put under the tree.

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How Can INFJs Move On from an Unrequited Crush Without Closure?

Sometimes we have to let go because the other person has clearly moved on and all we’re doing is holding onto a beautiful dream—a dream of what might have been.