If an INFJ senses that you’re not being authentic—that you’re purposefully putting on a mask or acting phony—this will be a cue to us to walk away.

Why Would an INFJ Reject Someone?

An INFJ won’t usually reject someone because they felt like it one day or because they just changed their mind about them. They’ll usually have a reason for doing this.

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This Is One of the Best Ways to Make an INFJ Feel Better

We need to be able to talk to someone without the fear of judgment. And we need this person to be willing to listen to every word we say.

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8 Possible Reasons the INFJ in Your Life Stopped Texting You

Even with a busy schedule, we INFJs will take the time to respond to texts from those we care about. But we also have a tendency to get caught up in things, like causes we deeply support.

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10 Texts the INFJ in Your Life Would Love to Get

When you send this text, it’s a nice reminder to your INFJ that you actually care about how they’re doing.

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What Should INFJs Do When Their Crushes Find Them Threatening?

I would advise you to keep the following five things in mind when you notice that your crushes feel intimidated by you.

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What Are Some Not-So-Obvious Signs an INFJ Likes You?

While I wasn’t ready to tell my crush that I liked him, I did want him to know I was thinking of him romantically.

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How Can INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Deal With Unrequited Love at Christmas?

I have some advice on how to stay hopeful and get through the holidays when what you really want can’t be put under the tree.

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How Can INFJs Move On from an Unrequited Crush Without Closure?

Sometimes we have to let go because the other person has clearly moved on and all we’re doing is holding onto a beautiful dream—a dream of what might have been.

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Why Do INFJs and Other Deep Lovers Hold Onto Love for So Long?

When you love so deeply, things like facts, reality, and logic tend to take a backseat.

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Why INFJs Leave Relationships and How to Get Them Back

Now is the time for the sincerest apology you’ve ever made.

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A Lesson in INFJ Rumination

Looking back, I realize that I might have been able to avoid all this if I had been able to think about something else all day.

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6 Things INFJs Should Keep in Mind When Texting Their Crush

Don’t panic when your crush doesn’t respond right away.

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Do INFJs Know When Someone Likes Them?

Yes, we INFJs usually know when someone likes us. But we’re often in denial about it.

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What Does It Mean When an INFJ Dreams About a Former Crush?

For INFJs who are innately intuitive, dreaming of a former crush can take on even more significance than for other personality types.

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Why Do INFJs Make Great Partners For People Who Have Been Hurt in Love?

If you’re someone who’s been hurt in love but who’s ready to try a new relationship, here are five reasons why an INFJ would be a great partner for you.

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How Can an INFJ Avoid Falling Too Deeply in Love with Someone They’ve Never Met?

If you’re an INFJ who tends to fall in love with people you’ve never met, the following tips may help keep you from losing your mind over them.

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How Can an INFJ Handle Rejecting Someone Who Confesses Their Love For Them?

Since INFJs feel everything so deeply, this type of rejection can be especially hard for them. In this post, I offer advice on how to handle the situation.