You loved someone when they were in a bad place, and they left once they got out of it. This might be why.

As you spend time with this person, you can’t help but imagine what your life together will look like once they recover.

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7 Reasons Your Love May Often Be Unrequited

The people you’re most compatible with may not be who you expect.

A Lesson in INFJ Rumination

Looking back, I realize that I might have been able to avoid all this if I had been able to think about something else all day.

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6 Things INFJs Should Keep in Mind When Texting Their Crush

Don’t panic when your crush doesn’t respond right away.

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Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.

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Why Is It So Hard To Respond To a Love Confession?

You can’t just tell them what they want to hear. If you do and what you say isn’t aligned with how you feel, it’ll just cause heartache for both of you.

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Do INFJs Know When Someone Likes Them?

Yes, we INFJs usually know when someone likes us. But we’re often in denial about it.

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What Do You Do When You Confess Your Love for Someone and They Don't Respond?

For anyone who has found their heartfelt love confession met with silence or something close to it, this is my best advice on how to recover.

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How To Use Writing To Start a New Life

Writing can help you get a handle on what didn’t work in your old life and what you want to do differently this time.

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What Does It Mean When an INFJ Dreams About a Former Crush?

For INFJs who are innately intuitive, dreaming of a former crush can take on even more significance than for other personality types.

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How To Get Clear on What You Believe

To get through a spiritual crisis like the one I went through, you have to be clear on what you believe. This is a breakdown of the process that helped me do that.

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Why Do INFJs Make Great Partners For People Who Have Been Hurt in Love?

If you’re someone who’s been hurt in love but who’s ready to try a new relationship, here are five reasons why an INFJ would be a great partner for you.

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How Can an INFJ Avoid Falling Too Deeply in Love with Someone They've Never Met?

If you’re an INFJ who tends to fall in love with people you’ve never met, the following tips may help keep you from losing your mind over them.

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Need Help Getting Over Unrequited Love? Try One of These Activities

What makes the healing process easier is concentrating on activities that engage both your mind and your body.

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How Can an INFJ Handle Rejecting Someone Who Confesses Their Love For Them?

Since INFJs feel everything so deeply, this type of rejection can be especially hard for them. In this post, I offer advice on how to handle the situation.