Common Lies People Tell Themselves When They Have Trouble Finding a Partner: Part 2

If you’re feeling unlovable, the deep root of it is that you’re probably having trouble loving yourself.

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Common Lies People Tell Themselves When They Have Trouble Finding a Partner: Part 1

Here, I’m going to address five of the most common “I’m too…” lies people tell themselves when they find the journey for love to be a struggle.

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What Can We Learn from Crushes on Fictional Characters?

If you’ve ever had a crush on a fictional character—or if you’re in the middle of one—consider the following five things it may be telling you.

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Why Is It So Hard to Make a Love Confession?

When the time comes for you to confess your love for someone, you have to stop running and confront your feelings.

A Word of Hope to Those Still Waiting for Love as We Enter 2022

There may be many reasons you’re single at this time in your life. But one thing I need you to know is, there’s nothing wrong with you.

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5 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Responding to a Love Confession

If you find yourself in the position of having to respond to someone’s love confession, take a moment to ask yourself the following five questions first.

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The Importance of Gratitude While Waiting for That Special Someone

It’s easy to take for granted all the other people in your life because of this one person you’re still waiting for.

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Why INFJs Leave Relationships and How to Get Them Back

Now is the time for the sincerest apology you’ve ever made.

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5 Indirect Ways To Ask Your Crush If They Like You

If you’ve revealed your feelings for your crush to someone you trust, you can have them ask your crush how they feel about you.

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You loved someone when they were in a bad place, and they left once they got out of it. This might be why.

As you spend time with this person, you can’t help but imagine what your life together will look like once they recover.

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7 Reasons Your Love May Often Be Unrequited

The people you’re most compatible with may not be who you expect.

Lessons I Learned from Unrequited Love

After many years of experience with unrequited love, I’ve learned lessons that have taught me how to be more cautious with my feelings. Here are seven of them.

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Why Is It So Hard To Respond To a Love Confession?

You can’t just tell them what they want to hear. If you do and what you say isn’t aligned with how you feel, it’ll just cause heartache for both of you.

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What Do You Do When You Confess Your Love for Someone and They Don't Respond?

For anyone who has found their heartfelt love confession met with silence or something close to it, this is my best advice on how to recover.

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Need Help Getting Over Unrequited Love? Try One of These Activities

What makes the healing process easier is concentrating on activities that engage both your mind and your body.

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Differences Between Unrequited Love and No-Longer-Requited Love

Though there are similarities between unrequited love and what I call no-longer-requited love, there are also key differences. In this post, I talk about some of them.

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8 Things I Would Tell My First Crush If I Could See Him Again

When I fell in love with my fifth grade crush, my entire world shifted. If we happen to meet again, I’d like to tell him at least the following eight things.

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The Positive Side to Unrequited Love

For even the most unpleasant things in life, when looked at from the right perspective, you can always find the positive. Unrequited love is no exception.

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4 Things I Wish I Knew Before Having My First Crush

My first official crush started when I was nine years old. I liked boys before him, but until my crush on him began, I had never felt that strong an attachment to another person.