INFJs are known to be perfectionists. As an INFJ, I know what it feels like when perfectionism gets the best of you.

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What Does Unrequited Love Feel Like for an INFJ?

I have a lot of experience with unrequited love. But as an INFJ, even when my love isn’t reciprocated, I love intensely.

INFJ, INFJ LoveAshley CantaveOctober 22, 2020unrequited, love, repressed, feelings, emotions, confusing, complicated, INFJ, longings, unfulfilled, desires, fantasies, daydreams, dreams, objective, heart, trust, deepComment

Why Do We Like To Oversimplify?

Reality rarely falls into neat categories.

IdentityAshley CantaveOctober 15, 2020categories, labels, shades, colors, complicated, essence, INFJ, spirit, oversimplify, classify, name, group, simpleComment

What Keeps INFJs From Speaking?

In a world full of unexpressed desires, unconfessed love, and unspoken thoughts, people are still struggling to say what they want to say when they want to say it. INFJs in particular may be susceptible to this.

Why Are We Afraid To Examine What We Believe?

Sometimes reexamining your beliefs is the only way to make them stronger.

Why Is There So Much Emphasis on Positivity?

What if expressing how you really feel instead of always pretending everything is fine makes you happy?

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Why Do We Measure Self-Worth in "Likes" and "Follows"?

The internet has given people yet another way to compare themselves—in “likes” and “follows.”

Why Do People Look Outside Themselves for Their Identity?

I see no problem in seeking guidance when searching for your life path. What I take issue with is when people feel incapable of discovering who they are on their own.

Why Is Letting Go So Hard for INFJs?

Everyone has things it’s hard for them to let go of. For INFJs in particular, though, letting go can be even more difficult. But why? Why is it so hard?

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How Do You Know It's Time To Go on a Journey of Self-Discovery?

Sometimes life forces us into molds. For a while, these molds can feel right and even natural. But at some point, you may come to a place where something doesn’t feel right.

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How Do You Know It's Time To Go on a Journey of Rediscovery?

Anytime you find yourself taking a trip down memory lane, that’s a kind of journey of rediscovery. If you find yourself doing that often, that’s usually a sign that it’s time to go on a deliberate journey of rediscovery.

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What Is a Journey of Self-Discovery Like for an INFJ?

Every person would benefit from going on a journey of self-discovery at least once in their life. But embarking on this particular quest may feel more instinctive to INFJs.

What Is a Journey of Rediscovery Like for an INFJ?

For me, rediscovery requires going back—back to a time when things made sense—back to the familiar.

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Why Can't Real Life Be More Like the Movies?

If we collectively decide and agree that we like to see certain things in movies—like happy endings—why can’t we collectively decide and agree to work toward those things in life?

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Why Do INFJs Love So Hard?

My personality type is INFJ. That means—among other things—that when I love, I love hard. Here’s an example.

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What Do You Do If You're Single and Don't Want to Be?

If you’re single and you don’t want to be, there are plenty of things you can do. Before you do any of these things, though, you have to ask yourself something. Why do you want a partner?

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Why Does "Happily Ever After" Usually Start With Marriage?

Is it not possible for a single person to live happily ever after?

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Why Do We Forget Loved Ones Who Aren't on Social Media?

In 2013, I did an experiment. Tired of receiving stale, Facebook-prompted birthday wishes, I took my birthday off Facebook to see what would happen. And here’s what happened.