Why Should You Consider Expressing Your Sensuality Through Writing?

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When people talk about sensuality, this refers to experiencing life through the physical senses. As someone who can easily get lost in her own head, I understand how valuable that can be.

I think reconnecting with the physical world through things like the food you eat, the music you listen to, the sights you take in, and other pleasurable sensations is a great way to get out of your head for a while. And I’ll admit that I haven’t been good about doing these kinds of things regularly.

But something I have done as a way to connect to the sexual part of my sensuality is to express myself through writing. Even though I’m a single woman, I do have a sensual side, as do all women—and all people—regardless of relationship status. And with that side come sexual desires.

Sometimes I’ll indulge in fantasy as a way to connect to that part, but sometimes I like to take those fantasies and put them in writing. This is another way for me to express my sensuality that feels good to me.

If you’re wondering how you can express your sensuality, here are a few reasons you might want to consider using writing as a way to do it.

5 Reasons to Express Your Sensuality Through Writing

1. It doesn’t require a partner.

   You don’t need a partner to write a story about your sensual desires, which means this is an option for you even if you’re single. Of course, the characters you write about can have relationships, but you don’t have to be in one to enjoy their experiences through them. All you have to do is write what you feel like writing. No partner required.

2. It’s low-pressure.

   When it comes to exploring your sensuality with another person, there can be expectations and pressure on both sides to do certain things or be a certain way. And that can lead to things like anxiety or fear of disappointing the other person.
   
   If you’re just starting to embrace your sensuality, in addition to fantasizing, I think writing is a great low-pressure way to get to know this side of you. There’s no pressure to please another person in real life, and you don’t have to fulfill any fantasies they may have or worry about being disappointed yourself. This way of expressing your sensuality allows you to focus on pleasing yourself and exploring what you enjoy in the sensual world.

3. It gives you a safe space to explore your fantasies.

   While it can be nice to keep some fantasies in your head, writing them out gives you yet another playground where you can explore all sorts of sensual desires. And when you write them out this way, it also allows you to get a little distance from them so you can analyze them—if you so choose.
   
   I’m passionate about self-discovery, and I find that you can learn things about yourself by analyzing the kinds of fantasies you’re drawn to. For instance, what is it about the scenes you’re choosing that is so appealing to you? Is it the power dynamic? Is there a sense of familiarity or comfort? Or do you relish the thrill and excitement?
   
   Do you find yourself keeping things relatively tame or are you open to exploring different kinds of adventures? All of this is information you can use to learn more about yourself. And while it’s fine if you prefer tamer or more traditional scenes, you can also play around with other types of interactions if you’re feeling more adventurous.

4. You can revisit your stories whenever you like.

   When you leave your fantasies in your head, it’s possible for you to forget the scenes you imagine after you’re done imagining—if you’re not watching those scenes on replay, anyway. Or you may forget some memorable conversations that were spoken in reveries that include dialogue.
   
   But if you write your fantasies down, you can revisit them anytime you like. You can reread your favorite scenes again and again. And you can build your reveries into full-fledged stories that take you on a roller coaster ride of emotions. In this way, you move beyond the realm of the sexual and into general self-expression and creativity. These are also important parts of you that deserve to be given attention.
   
   And just so you know, you don’t always have to write things you’ve actively fantasized about. You can just sit down and start writing as a way to express your sensual side even if you haven’t fantasized about that story or those scenes before.
   
   Maybe you heard a song or read a story or smelled something wonderful and it arose something in you. Maybe it stirred your inner desires or just inspired you to want to experience something specific. While you’re free to look for stories other people have written as a way to experience those things, you can also take it upon yourself to write about exactly what you want to read.

5. It frees up room for other fantasies.

   It can be hard to juggle multiple fantasies in your mind at once. But sometimes you might want to take a break from certain reveries so you can indulge in others. You may not want to forget the ones you’re setting aside, though, maybe because you really enjoyed them or because there are other things you would like to explore further later.
   
   When you write your fantasies down, you free up mental space to imagine other things. Then, if you want to go back to stories you’ve already imagined, all you have to do is pull out what you wrote and jump right back in.

Final Thoughts

I find fantasy to be an incredible tool for expressing your sensual side. And I consider writing to be a great compliment to that. You don’t need a partner to write a story, you have a safe space to explore and analyze your fantasies, and writing allows you to put them into a tangible form that you can revisit whenever you like. Plus, you don’t have to think about pleasing anyone but yourself when you write. You can just focus on what you enjoy.

So, whether you’re experienced or new to expressing your sensuality, I hope you’ll consider using writing as part of your exploration—in addition to anything else that helps you connect to this beautiful side of you.

~ Ashley C.